Q : Gary, do you have any suggestions for dealing with sexual attraction and temptation during our engagement? I just think the key is setting boundaries. You decide on the things you feel like are going beyond the realm of where you should go in this juncture of your relationship. Is this wrong? Gary : I believe that pornography never enhances a marriage because it takes the focus off of the spouse and puts it on someone else. I would never encourage a man to use pornography while he and his wife are apart for seasons of time.
As aware people, we understand that words have power. The power to create and the power to destroy. And that some words can be omitted from our everyday language in order to help us manifest our dream reality. In love, we fall. We burn with passion.
The " The 5 Love Languages ," written by Dr. Gary Chapman, was published in the late '90s. Chapman studied linguistics, which led him to develop the concept that individuals speak different "love languages" in their relationships.
I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist.