I just want to know if after I get married my husband wanted me to give him oral sex but I did not want to do it because I think that it is disgusting, what do I do? If my husband really wanted it, would it be Haram if I refused to give in to him? This is a concern of mine and I would benefit from your knowledge on this matter. Though it is permissible, it is advisable to observe the noble, good and general Islamic decencies in enjoying wife. What is mentioned in the question even though it is permissible but it is contrary to high moral standards. In addition, it might cause one to touch impurity without any necessity and it might lead to swallowing the impurity.
My husband demands oral sex every morning to relieve stress, creating for me, what can I do?
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Several years ago, I suffered from depression and came out of it very positively. My husband was never able to understand what had happened to me. He was ignorant of my condition and left me to handle it myself. During this time he became selfish in his attitude to everything, especially when it came to sex. No matter how I felt, his demands had to be met. Or he would rage and corner me into his demands either for masturbation or oral sex or full sex.
Recently I received an email from a concerned wife whose husband was demanding she swallow his semen during oral sex. One person is insisting and the other person is resisting and this dynamic is causing horrendous discord, not just in bed, but in the marriage in general. Certainly there are several spouses out there who are receiving no or very little sexual intimacy, and some have wondered if they can be more stern or demanding? Other than someone ordering someone to do something, how else do we determine something is a demand?